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If you’ve ever been acquainted with the dark corners of the XXX world, you know the portrayal of sex is similar to the portrayal of love in romantic movies in one and only one way — it’s unrealistic.

The easiest way to explain the difference between porn sex and real life sex is with an advertisement example.

When McDonald’s advertises their Maharaja Mac on national television, the burger is prepped and shined to look its best. Each layer of the burger is distinctly visible, the vegetables look crisp and appetizing, the meat looks delectable, and the buns look like artisan breads. But when you order the very same Maharaja Mac at a McDonald’s store, you’re presented with a rather sad and quickly put together burger. Disappointing, isn’t it?

Porn sex is precisely like this.

The porn we expose ourselves to is an exaggerated and over-the-top depiction of real life sex. The porn stars are trimmed, brushed, and made up to perfection. As visually pleasing and stimulating porn is, it’s a lie. A porn video is shot with precision, finesse, and deception. There’s a reason a porn movie is shot with multiple angles, because a single angle won’t appeal to the audience.

This video accurately describes the difference between porn sex and real life sex with food as the stars.

You may wonder how porn ruins one’s sex life. The answer is simple: Outrageous expectations.

The first time I watched a porn video, I was surprised at the perfection on my computer screen. It was nothing like people described. The couple moved in blissful harmony, they looked like products of Greek gods, and it ended with a happily ever after for both of them. This was nothing like the sex I knew and was having; far from it.

When we familiarize ourselves with pornography, our minds are conditioned to expect these perfect scenarios in our real sex lives. What we don’t realize is, pornography follows a pattern in all their videos. We are conditioned to think male genitals are big enough to destroy someone and women are hairless beings. Pornography changes our perception of sex drastically, making us believe that sex is ideal only in one particular way.

Pornography forces us to believe that the more raunchy and rough sex is, the better is the experience for both partners. The unreasonable standards of sex set by the porn industry causes couples to have a disconnect in their sex lives, especially when one partner expects sex to always end in an orgasm and the other partner expects sex to be more ‘wild’.

Porn does not contain human moments; it does not show the connection two people share when they have sex. Porn does not show real world issue; it does not show chafing or exhaustion. Porn is edited to cut out the bad parts and only portray the good parts. But in reality, sex is one part good and one part bad.

Porn is a fantasy and works great for those fantasies streaming in your head. But those fantasies don’t apply to the real world and never will. As stimulating and pleasing porn is, it doesn’t make you a better lover. Instead of channeling porn scenarios in your real sex life, appreciate it and leave it where it’s supposed to be because porn belongs on the screen of your computer or phone, not your real sex life.