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Unfounded rumors and myths can really tear a relationship apart, but only if you give them any credence. Stop believing in silly rumors, and use your own judgement.

1. Rumors about your partner cheating on you.

If you give in to rumors rather than relying on your own instincts and the trust you have for your partner, the relationship is without a leg to stand on. Love is all about trusting the person you’re with, and baseless rumors can tear a relationship apart instantly, if given any credence to. No matter what other people say, trust in no one but your partner and your own intuition.

2. The rumor that a good relationship means you don’t have to work at it.

Every relationship requires work and effort, good or bad. You cannot have a healthy, steadfast relationship without putting in any effort. It might last for a while, but it won’t last forever. Work on your relationship, because in a good relationship, even the effort you put in, doesn’t seem like much of an effort.

3. If your partner truly loves you, he/she will know what you need without you having to say it.

It is unfair to expect your partner to be a mind reader. His/her ability to gauge your needs or what you are thinking, has nothing to do with their love for you. Some people are just more perceptive than others. But unless you make your thoughts and feelings clear, your partner will have no way of knowing. Don’t hold them to impossible standards.

4. The myth that jealousy is a sign of love.

Jealousy is always a very selfish feeling, it comes from possessiveness, and from a sense of owning a person. Love, however, is the most selfless feeling there could possibly be. Trying to justify your or your partner’s jealousy, by terming it as a way to express love, is delusional and dangerous. Jealousy is never love.

5. Thinking that you can change your partner.

If you enter into a relationship thinking that you can change the person your partner is, or mold him/her to your specifications, you are in for a long, frustrating wait. People never really let go of their innermost natures. Changing someone is an impossibility. And, anyway, if you don’t find your partner perfect, should you even be in this relationship? Love is about accepting and embracing a person’s imperfections, and not wanting to change a thing about them.

6. Taking relationship counseling means that your relationship is doomed.

Couples’ counselling is about as defamed as visiting a shrink is. Just like people tag one ‘crazy’ for seeing a shrink, having to undergo couples’ counselling, is also seen by many as the end of the relationship. However, admitting that there is a problem isn’t the end of a relationship, staying in denial is. Relationship counseling can, and has helped couples fix their relationship. It can help you too.