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Everyone finds their own partner attractive, and thinks they are the hottest of the hot. Sometimes, more than they deserve. Why is it that people who are normally disparaging and harsh about other people’s looks, slip up when it comes to their own partner?

1. Because you love them.

You’re in love. How could you possibly not find your partner as hot as could be? Love takes away all flaws, and makes you think someone is perfect, even when they’re not.


2. Love is blind.

This is quoted so often, it’s almost an urban myth. Love may not literally blind you, but it does soften your vision, and make you more likely to overlook faults and flaws, and view your partner through rose-tinted glasses.


3. Personality trumps looks.

When we first see someone, we tend to judge them on their looks, but as the acquaintance grows, personality takes fore front. If someone average, or below average-looking has an awesome personality, it can reflect on their looks and make them appear more attractive than they really are.


4. Positive illusions can make you fall in love.

When you’re in love, you don’t quite see your partner objectively. Your illusions about how perfect they are, physically and personality-wise, are what made you fall in love in the first place, and these illusions are what keep the love going.


5. Perceived attractiveness is very subjective.

In an attractiveness study conducted in Cornell, participants were asked to rate subjects from 1 to 5, on the basis of attraction to them. The study found that the same people who received a rating of ones and two’s from some people, also received fives from others, which goes to show that what may seem attractive to one person, may not to another.


6. Their sweetness makes them more attractive to you.

Your partner loves you and you know it. They are generally nice to you, and do sweet things for you. All of these affect perceived attractiveness, making you likelier to rate your partner as hotter than they are.


7. You may know things about them others don’t.

Someone who might not look so good, may have skills and talents others are unaware of. You, being their partner, know it all, and there’s no denying that these skills and talents do add to the overall attractiveness of the person.


8. There’s no accounting for tastes.

People have widely varying tastes, so what one person finds hot, might not appeal so much to a different person, and vice versa.


9. You’re less judgmental when you’re in love.

Being in love takes away your discerning and criticizing abilities. It is hard to be critical of, or find fault with, someone you love.


10. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.

As has always been said, beauty isn’t objective. It is in the eyes of the beholder, and that is all that matters.