Like everything, Gen Y’s approach to marriage and relationships too is different. But some assumptions made about Gen Y are false and unwarranted. Here are some commonly made assumptions about Gen Y marriages.
1. That they don’t last.
Gen Y has a reputation for higher divorce rates. But when millenials get into a relationship, they do so knowingly and with intent, which means longer lasting, happier and stronger unions.
2. They don’t place a high premium on commitment or fidelity.
While this is true to some extent, it is not necessarily a bad thing. Millenials are more open to experimentation, and less uptight about sex outside the marriage.
3. They don’t want kids.
Some couples may opt to not have children, but the majority of Gen Y couples are still considering starting a family, albeit later in life than other generations.
4. That they’re unstable.
Gen Y knows what it wants, but that doesn’t mean they are flighty and undecided. Gen Y has its fair share of stable, rock hard marriages, just like any other generation.
5. That they don’t work on the marriage.
Gen Y is as commited to making a marriage work as previous generations. Just because there is the option of walking out, does not mean that they do not put effort into their marriages.
6. There are no traditional gender defined roles.
This is certainly true of Gen Y marriages and why not? Traditional man-woman roles are slowly changing and we have to adapt with the times.
7. They run at the first sign of trouble.
While Gen X was taught to stick to a marriage even when it fell into rocky waters, Gen Y has the option of walking out. However that does not mean that they do so at the drop of a hat.
8. They’re short.
Gen Y marriages can be just as long lasting, fulfilling and happy as most Gen X marriages, if not more.
9. They choose live-in over marriage.
The rate of live-in relationships may have gone up with this generation. But so has the marrying rate. To most millenials, a live in relationship is just a way to test the waters before deciding to commit. It doesn’t mean they don’t value marriage any longer.
10. The erosion of family values.
Gen Y is wrongly assumed to be selfish, uncaring, and to have no regard for traditional family values. On the contrary, three fifths of people between the ages of twenty five to thirty five, either live with their parents or visit them regularly. Even after marriage.
Gen Y may be the generation that has it all. But when it comes to marriage and relationships, they face the same hurdles and obstacles as previous generations.